I remember when I was a little boy my father didn’t love me; he couldn’t. He loved my older brother but he couldn’t love me somehow, at least not in a way I could understand it.
You are controlling because I want you to do it, not because of the situation or what needs to be done.
We live in a constant fear that our shortcomings will be exposed to family, to friends and to the world.
Beneath all of these addictions is this disease, this control disease which is the mark of our society.
A lot of us have jobs where we need to give people structure but that is different from controlling.
I wrote a book called The Taste of New Wine because I couldn’t find a book that talked about the reality of the situation and how we were dishonest and afraid.
Religious work is one of the best ways to keep from facing your reality if you are Christian, if you are using it to calm the pain, because that it what all addictions are, attempts to cover the pain of this spiritual disease.
I grew up and I became very successful at what I did as a young man. I became a work addict because this was the only way I could get any relief from this pain.
A spiritual person is also in touch with his or her own reality, feelings and thoughts, and the reality of the people around him or her, not projecting on them.
The whole Bible is the story of men and women trying to get back to God, to overcome that sin with sacrifices, good works, sermons, prophesy, witnessing, giving all kinds of things. It never worked.
Then one day I read about a book that said that the church is the only army that shoots its wounded.
What happens is that people who are very religious but who are not in touch with reality, cannot be spiritual.